Part of the fun of X (formerly Twitter) is discovering what people are talking about. A few weeks ago, I kept seeing people posting about how they’re better parents than God or Christians because they don’t hate their children.

I thought, “Where on Earth did this come from?” After perusing enough of them I finally found it. They were in response a recent article on The Gospel Coalition website titled “I Love My Transgender Child. I Love Jesus More.”

Based on the title alone, one could think the writer has abandoned or hates his/her transgender child. The detractors even used Luke 14:26 to bolster their point (ESV): If anyone comes to me and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple.

I asked some of those people if they had read the article, but none answered. If they did, they would have discovered the writer does not hate nor abandoned his/her child. Quite the opposite. What the child’s parents did do is turn to Jesus for answers instead of giving in to what their child and society wants and expects them to do.

What the Gospel Coalition did was use a clickbait title to imply a controversial stance—for Christians and non-Christians alike—to encourage more traffic to the article.

Most responses to the controversy were similar to this one:

X-erite: Any version of Jesus that makes you choose between him and your kids is the product of a hateful religion that isn’t worth your time or allegiance.

The gospel promoted by [The Gospel Coalition] is anti-Christ, anti-human, and history will hold them accountable for the harm they have inflicted.

To which I responded: All the more reason to raise our children to believe in Jesus… On the flipside, I’d expect any family member to choose Jesus over me and the reason is simple: I cannot save them. Only Jesus can do that, so only he is worthy of that kind of devotion. Everything else is idolatry.

To be fair, after I gave birth to Tom, I asked myself that same question: would I choose God over my son should he ask me to (such as Abraham & Isaac)? Several times, the answer was indeed a “no.” But I didn’t give up God. I merely prayed he wouldn’t ask me to make that choice.

Since I’ve been studying scripture more and grown closer to God since then, the choice is easy. Jesus all the way. The main reason is gratitude, because now that my son is older, I know Jesus has his life and his soul well in hand. He doesn’t need me to save him (and he never did. All I was supposed to do as his parent was lead the way).

More on Abraham and Isaac: A lot of people struggle with God asking Abraham to sacrifice Isaac. Many think God was manipulating him, forcing Abraham to prove his faith. I struggled with that a bit myself.

But I also like to look for things the Bible doesn’t say. For instance, we don’t know what Abraham was thinking at the time. Was he the one struggling with his faith and needed to be shown he didn’t hold his son over God? Did he also hope—perhaps even expect—until the very end that God would stop him, especially considering Isaac was God’s promise to him?

Sometimes God asks us to return our gifts to him, and Isaac was Abraham’s.

Even before Tom was born, I promised to give him back to God. He was the best gift we had prayed for and received, so it was only right to show our gratitude by returning him.

Just like Hannah gave her son, Samuel, back to God.